I’ve learned that more often than not resolutions don’t
stick and that goal setting plans gets dusty.
For years I’ve gone through days of goal setting, creating deadlines and
planning that would make some weary just talking about it. Although goal setting can be beneficial, for
me it had become more of a chore instead of an exciting activity to look
forward to each year. That is, until I
added an element that had been missing from the process…Feelings! Isn’t it bazaar that most of us create goals
without any thought to how we want to feel when we obtain that goal?
One of the most strategic, creative, freeing and utterly
brilliant questions I’ve asked myself is, “How do you want to feel?” Once I turned
my focus toward how I wanted to feel and understood what I needed to do to feel
the way I truly desired to feel, the idea of goal setting became exciting
again. I had new energy. The process became completely different than
it had in the past. Instead of creating
a long page of text and measurements, which often made me feel heavy with
responsibility and guilty if I didn’t measure up to my long list of goals, it
became much more emotionally based and freeing.
This new process is about embracing the possibilities
instead of striving and pushing. When
I’m pushing and striving and striving and pushing I grow weary. The goals seem too hard, too big, too much! When I’m focused on having the types of
feelings I want to have in my life, it’s about embracing the moments, the
possibilities and the success of living a life you want instead of a life about
measurement.
Here’s what I did and you can too:
1. Determine your values.
Here’s a link to worksheet to help you with this process.
- Page 1: http://www.pinterest.com/pin/477522366714983661/
- Page 2: http://www.pinterest.com/pin/477522366714983650/
2. Identify how you truly want to feel.
- Ask, “How do I want to feel?” Repeat the question 5 times to uncover your true desired feelings.
- Ask, “When have a felt this way before?” “What do I do now that creates those feelings?”
3. Create Vision Board.
Now that you have clarity about your values and feelings,
you are ready to create your vision board to guide your activities, choices and
all that you desire.
You will need:
- A large stack of magazines.
- An 8x10 or larger sheet of card stock
- Scissors
- Glue
- The understanding that there are no limits, no right or wrong choices; the only guide is your passion, values and feelings. Use these to steer you towards what your heart and mind desires.
Begin your vision board by tearing out the images and
words in the magazines that speak to you.
The images should evoke a feeling of excitement, tug at your emotions,
cause your heartbeat to increase, prompt you to say, “WOW!” The images only need to speak to you; no approval
is needed from anyone but you. The
images may represent something to you that is entirely different than what the
picture conveys to others. What is
important is that the image conveys how you want to feel and expresses what you
want to achieve in your life.
Assemble your images on your sheet of card stock in a way
that makes your heart sing with possibilities.
Your vision board is now ready to post in a place that
you will see daily. Your vision board is
a work in progress and can be updated as often as you like.
I encourage you to explore this new process. Find out your answers to the question, “How
do I want to feel?” and “What do I want/need to do to experience my desired
feelings?” Discover or re-discover your
values. Get creative. Let go of boundaries and measurements.
Let’s resolve the feelings of guilt and needing to stop doing something and instead
embrace the
possibilities for 2015!
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| Peggy's Vision Board |
